This article is spot on, and identifies what happens when you mix narcissism and religious abuse–as is often found within polygamy. We know of dinner table discussions with children, where wives who have left are trashed and minor hair and dress infractions are held up to ridicule and condemnation.
“There is huge emphasis on public performance. They demand perfection and happiness at all times.. . To further segregate, the narcissist uses secrecy or withholds information to a few select worthy individuals. Sometimes they require proof of advanced spirituality or some deeper level of commitment before they will share. . . For the narcissist, the end justifies the means. They may engage in criminal misconduct or cover up the transgressions of others in the name of their religion. This includes covering up sexual abuse, physical abuse, financial felonies, and misdemeanors. They believe they are above the law and therefore can subvert it.”
Perfect description of life in polygamy! Definitely worth reading the entire article